I'm a living example of someone in a long-distance relationship, and I must admit that it can be difficult at times.
In this essay, I'll give us some advice on how to grow and maintain a healthy relationship, regardless of how far apart we are or how long we've been apart.
1. Talk about how committed you want to be to each other and to the relationship as a whole.
-While you're not together, have a long chat about what you want from each other in this relationship. Some partners refuse to talk about their disagreements.
-Don't make any quick judgments. Everything is up for discussion.
-Will you be single when you're separated as well as when you're together, or will you be in other relationships?
-How will you deal with other people's attraction to you if it happens?
-How do you plan to deal with loneliness?
2. Let go of jealousy and make room for trust.
When you're not together, it's quite simple to let your mind wander. Allowing envy to damage your relationship is not a good idea. Find ways to distract yourself from negative ideas, such as how lonely you are. Talk to each other about the issues that worry you. Recognize that most people find long-distance relationships tough.
3. Call each other every day to check in and catch up on things.
Whenever feasible, make sure you have time to keep up with each other on a daily basis. You can set a certain time or any free time that comes up. At the end of each day, set aside at least 30 minutes to catch up on what's going on in each other's lives. As you gain a better knowledge of your spouse and what he or she is going through each day, add to your "love map."
Know how to use technology to your advantage.
During the day, send text or email messages to your spouse to let him or her know that you are thinking about him or her. When you have the opportunity, make video calls so you can see each other. Whenever you meet, post images of the times you spent together on social media so that you can reflect, appreciate, and renew your commitment to others in your lives.
4. Spend time together on a regular basis...in person.
Because it's a long-distance relationship, you should keep in mind that it's just as crucial to be together as much as possible for connection and intimacy. Obviously, some partners may be unable to do so. Families of military personnel are usually separated from them for long periods of time; nonetheless, wherever possible, make it a priority to be together in person as much as possible.
Make it a point to make that time as enjoyable as possible. Instead of focusing on how difficult it is, develop memories for the future.
Pursue the same objectives.
Even if you aren't always working together on those objectives. Look for activities that you can do together and share with each other whenever you get together or want to talk about your time apart.
5. Make a joint plan for your future.
Make plans to spend your vacations and weekends together. Discuss your aspirations for yourself and for your future as a pair, both now and when you are engaged or married. (Singles should avoid pressuring people into making commitments or making assumptions about others.) Make plans to spend time together in the future.
6. Be honest and open about your difficulties.
While you're away, remain upfront with each other and appreciate the reality that you don't want your partner to feel bad about the breakup. Make sure that this is only a little portion of your interactions with one another. Also, don't be too obnoxious about it.
You should not be afraid to express your worries and challenges as a result of your separation. Recognize your feelings and thoughts. Unless there is something you can do about it, don't make this the main topic of any conversation with the person you love.
7. Every day, give yourself loving and positive feelings.
There must be five (5) positives for every one (1) negative in a healthy relationship. Find constructive methods to help rather than being a bad donor.
8. Find ways to be happy even when you're not with your partner.
Do not put off enjoying your life till you are married.
People are not satisfied in relationships. People make their own happiness. It is a personal choice to seek happiness for oneself. People with a positive attitude are more enjoyable to be around. Find ways to make yourself happy and love your life so you can provide positive energy when you're with your family.
Enjoy it, please, for those in long-distance relationships. And don't play around with the joy and euphoria you're experiencing. Respect your partner.