Things That Can Make People Endure During An Unhealthy Relationship

Everyone will require a relationship at some point in their lives. We, too, require friendship and the presence of other people in our life. Similarly, I require parents, friends, relatives, and a loving partner. You'll also need someone in your life.



We require other people, friends, and a loving partner, which is why we keep our relationships with them and remain close to them. Nonetheless, not all of our interactions are healthy. There are some relationships that truly damage us, and others that we should leave. We try to maintain relationships, but our partners do not. They may even ignore us, act as if they don't care, and look down on us.

 

 

 

There is a partner who is constantly abused by their partner but perseveres, or a child who is constantly asked for money, is employed and bullied by their peers but remains friends with them, or a man who is dating a woman but is only used to deliver the pick up, but that woman has another love affair behind her. Incidents like these are not uncommon in our lives; situations like this happen all around us, and perhaps we or our closest friends have been through them.

 

 

 

Why does someone stay in such a relationship, one would wonder? What motivates a person to stay in a relationship that isn't working for them? Why do people stay in a relationship that isn't healthy for them, or, to put it another way, why do they stay in a relationship that isn't good for them?

 

 

 

On this subject, I learnt that psychotherapists believe that our interpersonal interactions reflect how we feel about ourselves. If we don't respect ourselves, for example, our friends won't respect us either. They won't want to defend us, and they'll frequently break their vows or forget where we are. They won't think about our feelings or needs because we don't think about them.

 

 

 

After further investigation, I discovered that there are three factors that can cause us to remain in unhealthy relationships, or partnerships that are not good for us. These are the three things:

 

 

 

Low self esteem

 

When a person is insecure, he or she will believe that his or her partner's terrible behavior is because he or she deserves it. Let's say you're employed by a friend who was ordered and exploited; you're uneasy, but you tell yourself, "Who am I?" I'm a moron, poor, and so forth. These are the things that get you used and make you feel mistreated.

 

 

 

In the end, we must remember that everyone deserves to be treated well by others. You must be kind to everyone around you as well as yourself. Believe that you are entitled to better treatment from people around you; everyone has the same rights, therefore don't let others treat you badly. Who else will stand up for themselves if not you?

 

 

 

The fear of being alone

 

 

 

The fear of being alone might sometimes lead you into an unhealthy relationship. We accept and enable their poor behavior to us because we are afraid of being ignored and outcast by our pals. We are aware that we are being exploited and harmed, but we choose to ignore it out of fear of feeling lonely, and worse, we accept their treatment of us.

 

 

 

Don't be afraid to feel lonely; when we sense that our relationship is becoming toxic, we must leave it and go on. There's no need to be afraid of not making friends; trust and believe in yourself, and you'll be able to make more value friends, people that care about you and want to defend you.

 

 

 

Work as a caretaker.

 

The last factor that keeps us in terrible relationships is that we overlook our own needs in order to attend to the needs of others; we only feel valued when we care for others and offer. We neglect our own needs because we are overly kind to others, allowing others to use us.

 

 

 

This isn't to say that we shouldn't be friendly to people for this reason. I believe that virtue exists on a separate plane; we must be compassionate to others and assist those in need. However, we do it not because we enjoy it or because others believe we are good at it, but because we have no choice. That is when our kindness does not become the source of our relationship's deterioration.

 

 

 

It will exhaust us if we do good only to be accepted by others. Others will use us as a result of it. Doing good for the sake of doing good will keep us in toxic relationships. Do good because it's the right thing to do, assist because it's the right thing to do, and don't expect anything in return; do good to make the world a better place.

 

 

 

Finally, consider how you feel about your relationship. Do you feel more at ease, braver, and respected as a result of this experience? That's when it happened to him. If you replied "yes" to all of these questions, the relationship is worth keeping.


Ijeoma Anyah

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