Add Up A Little Z.I.P In Your Relationship If You Want It To Survive

We will have some good and some bad experiences in our relationships, what we should always know is that good, the bad, and the ugly are all present. However, I was able to identify three key components of good relationships. These are the types of things that, over time, begin to build th

The acronym Z.I.P. stands for three things you can do - and start doing right now - to improve any and all of your relationships. They are as follows:



Give your relationship a little zip. Increase the level of intimacy in your relationship. In your relationship, create a sense of purpose.



Let's look at each of these three in more detail:



Give your relationship a little zip.



By way of Zest, I'm talking about having a good time.



Relationships were supposed to be enjoyable! If relationships weren't designed to have a little zing to them, we wouldn't have been born with the ability to have fun!



Consider this: Don't most healthy partnerships begin with a lot of laughter and good times? You usually have fun as a significant component of the relationship, whether it's going out to dinner or a ballgame, spending time playing a game, or even just having a vibrant conversation. The glue that holds the partnership together is some of the fun.



However, as time passes, especially in a marriage, but in all relationships, the fun begins to fade. It's becoming increasingly important to get the job done, whatever that work may be.



We need to reestablish the concept of "zest" to revive the relationship, to give it a little zip.



So, how about you? Have you lost your zest for life? What are your options for reclaiming it? Consider the following relationship: What were some of the fun activities you did early on in your relationship that served as the glue that kept you together? Now, make a commitment to doing those things again and see if your relationship doesn't improve! Develop new interesting activities to do together if you can, so you can both embark on a great trip!



Increase the level of intimacy in your interactions.



First, a couple of points to clarify: For starters, I don't only mean sexual closeness when I say intimacy. For all intents and purposes, I'm talking about taking your relationship to the next level. Second, I don't mean you should start giving your coworkers collective embraces or holding revelation sessions in which the tissue runs freely.



What I mean is that every mutually satisfying relationship has a level of depth to it that gives it significance. This is exactly what we're looking for in our relationships.



Remember how you felt when you first started dating, whether it was with your spouse or a friend. All of that time was spent revealing your identity, where you came from, and your likes and dislikes. The relationship continued because there was a great sense of happiness with it. You liked who they were and it was nice to be recognized by them.



But then something unexpected occurs. The pursuit of depth comes to an end once we reach a certain degree. We've stopped talking about our feelings, likes, and dislikes. We have stopped communicating our pleasures, dreams, and anxieties. Instead, we fall into patterns. We stop knowing one another and merely exist together as the daily grind takes over. Don't get me wrong: you don't have to have a meaningful conversation every time you get together. Remember, I'm the one who advocated in the preceding paragraphs for just having a good time once and again. Regular times of close connection, in which we go deeper with people, are, however, required.



This is very difficult for many male species, including myself, but it is not only doable, but also healthy and necessary! If we want to have the kinds of connections we were created for, we must allow others to get to know us and us to get to know others.



True genuine relationships develop when we are loved and accepted for who we are at our core, rather than simply performing in ways that keep the other person in the relationship.



Consider which of your relationships you'd like to see improve. Spend some time in the next weeks and months just talking and getting to know each other on a deeper level. Allow the other person to become more immersed in your world. You can't make the other person be more intimate, and you can't say things like, "Let's get together and have an intimate talk," because that would be too manufactured. You may, however, decide for yourself whether or not to let others into your universe. Perhaps this will be the impetus for them to follow suit.



You can choose to avoid intimacy, but you won't get much further and will have a yearning in your heart for more, or you can start the deepening process and see your relationships improve.



In your interactions, create a sense of purpose.



The most important relationships we have are those that are bound together by a shared purpose and vision for what the partnership may achieve, not just for the individuals involved but also for the larger good.



Let's face it, when people share a shared goal, they feel like they're part of a team, and they're more likely to stick together. Even if people are dissatisfied with their partners, if they have a goal in mind, such as raising children, they are considerably more likely to stick it out. Bonds are formed when people have a common goal.



So, what happens if we go out of our way to find a common ground with those with whom we want to build a relationship or with whom we already have a relationship but want to take it to the next level? It does, however, get better and stronger.



Consider your most important relationships. Aren't they all focused on the same thing or have a shared goal?



What if your relationship has become stale? Consider whether you once shared a common goal that has since fallen by the wayside.



What about your desire for a relationship to develop? Take some time to start cultivating a shared goal. Sit down with that person and explain that you'd want to work toward some common goals and objectives that you can achieve together. As you work on these, you'll notice that your connection strengthens in unexpected ways!







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