Do you desire a long lasting love in your marriage? Many Christian couples undoubtedly aspire for this, but many of their relationships are either struggling or disintegrating. This is not something that God wants for any of His children. This essay will teach you how to create long-lasting love in your marriage.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things; it does not envy; it does not parade itself, is not puffed up; it does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; it does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; it bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love is unbreakable. But predictions, whether they exist or not, will fail... - I Corinthians 13:4–8, I Corinthians 13:4–8, I Corinthians 13:4–8, (NKJV).
Marriage is a spiritual institution that should not be entered into or followed in the flesh; it requires God's assistance. Marriage is more than just saying "I do," but that is an important part of the process. It is the spiritual, emotional, and physical union between a woman and a man. That is why, if you have intercourse with a harlot, you become one with her and suffer the consequences, which is God's wrath.
You must know LOVE Himself in order to have lasting love in marriage. I John 4:8 says that God is love. The extent to which you know Him influences the longevity of your love for your spouse. The amount of love you have for God impacts how much love you have for your spouse. Though you need Eros (love of the body or sexual desire) and Philia (brotherly love) in marriage, I'm not talking about them. If you want to have a long-lasting love in your marriage, I'm talking about Agape love. You must love your spouse as God loves you. It is always going to stand the test of time. Others may fail, but Agape love never fails.
God's love is a special sort of love.
The Bible's portrayal of God's love is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. This is how you should love your partner unconditionally. Jesus loved us so much that he died for us while we were still sinners. God expects us to love our wives as much as we love ourselves. You are to love him or her primarily because you love God and want to please Him, not because he or she loves you. Otherwise, you may stop loving your partner if you ever believe he no longer loves you.
So, what's next?
It's not about what you can obtain from your spouse or what he or she can provide you in marriage; it's about what you can give to your spouse. It all comes down to what you can provide to his or her life. God considered marriage and founded it because He believed Adam lacked something, so He created a helpmeet for him. So, in marriage, you are expected to make up for whatever your spouse lacks. You are not to rely on him or her to make up for what you lack; it should not be your primary goal. To develop lasting love, you must take care of your own responsibilities and trust God to help your spouse with his or hers.
The truth is that relying on your partner to make you happy is a recipe for disaster. He or she is unable to carry out this task. God is the source of your happiness and joy. It's fantastic if He fulfills it through your husband or wife. However, in your marriage, you must choose to rely totally on God for everything. If you choose to please God all of the time, you will always please your spouse, and he or she will return the favor. Jesus was always a blessing to the people because he wanted to please God, the Father.
Furthermore, it is impossible to love and not give. You may love without giving, but you can't love without giving: your time, energy, and resources. Giving is a way of life. By giving His only Son, God demonstrated what it is to love, and there is nothing else He will not offer you. As a result, learn to give your spouse your best and everything you have.
To summarize, if you want to develop a lasting love in your marriage, you must first know God (who is Love) and obey His commandments, then choose to please your spouse by putting him or her first before yourself, and make giving a lifestyle in your relationship.